Nepalese parents and their financial IQ?

This story is  many years old. But I’m not that old.

I remember. I was in class 11 and I told them that I’d want to prepare for engineering from the start of class 11.

I asked them to let me join PEA engineering preparation. Now don’t get me wrong. I wasn’t sure that it’d help me like this at that moment. (Nobody is aware about the consequences of their actions and “what they should have done” until that moment doesn’t pass). But I had a good feeling that I need to do it (as although I was always a good in academic exams, but bad in entrance exams, So I wanted to improve).

Again I asked them at yei shrawn bhadra tira that if I can join PEA. At this time, almost every good student in my class was regularly going to PEA, and giving PEA exams.

No surprised, “hunna” re. Their reason was just greed, pure greed.

We were not financially f*d to not even have 10K to join PEA(I’d have got scholarships because my grades were extremely high). The reason they said(My father wasn’t at home at that time, I am sure, he’d have allowed me to do it).

The reason was I was getting scholarship of around 4500 per month(I’m not sure if this was the monthly fee or sth else). I’d just have to cross 70% in internals and externals to keep it. But parents were very greedy about it.

Later in magh,falgun,when my father came to home, now they started to push me to join PEA. Like wtf? Baisakh ma final xa, aba PEA jane? LOL? I mean entrance exams although you might say 12 kai auni ho, but they’re extremely different ball game. The way of study needed for it is extremely different.

Concepts bujherai padey ni(which ofc I did), you’d need lots of better practice for it. Jadu hune ho? Haha, yeta board ko lagi padna parni bela ma PEA join garera?

They asked me to get the books of PEA at that time and we get it, but I already knew that this opportunity was went out of hand and ab kuch nahi ho sakta.

I was so angry because of their greediness that I’d decided that I was never going to take a year loss at any costs. I wasn’t going to do it.   Read my experience

They had to pay easy 10-11 lakhs for education.

Now let’s look what’d had happened if I joined PEA earlier-:

Joining PEA isn’t a testament that you’ll get good rank. But what it’s testament is that you understand more about the engineering cultures of Nepal. Like how bad are private colleges. What is the value of graduating from a good college? All of us know about it even now, but knowing it vs realizing its value is different. You might know sth should not be done but still do it. But if you realize sth must not be done, you won’t do it. You’ll realize the alternative options. There are lots of things doing early helps you. Like  lots of valuable things. I mean just realize the difference between studying for a subject 1 week before exam vs studying for it 3 months before exam(at the start of semester)? what’s the difference? Padne ta eutai subject ho. But difference ta hunxa ni.

I am pretty sure, my rank would not have improved highly. I got 3 digit rank even without any preparation(just +2). I even got KU and missed it due to lack of maturity and productivity management and time management. I got a similar subject at thapathali as well, but missed it because I wasn’t very aware of these things, like k ma k hunxa, esko alternative k padda hunxa? Because let’s be honest. BCT full hunxa pulchowk ma <100 rank ma, BCE ni testai 250 samma full hunxa. So you are most likely not going to get the subject you want at these colleges. But engineering is inter-related(barring may be like 10 subjects)  mechanical and industrial engineering, industrial and chemical, aerospace and mechanical and so on so on…

What I can guarantee is that if I got that opportunity to do what I wanted, I’d never had made them pay 10 lakhs(not only because of money but also due to opportunities). Again, joining PEA at that time wasn’t a guarentee that I’d have got easily everywhere. Tyo kura ko lagi early start garne nai haina,

Let’s see even in worse case-:

1. Failed to get any rank to get any related subjects in any government colleges
2.  Tried next year, failed again, same situation
3. Failed to get anything in KU as well

Even in this worst case, if I joined private now, I’d be content with myself. I’ve gave my 100% and there’s no more that I could do. This is my level.

 

The point that I’m trying to make here isn’t about regrets or ranting that I didn’t get that or this. The effective difference in quality of education in Nepalese institutions is believe me-: Absolutely minimal. Same idiots are teaching everywhere. There might be difference in libraries, student qualities, the expertise of faculties(to help you in research)….and so on though. It’s not sour grapes are bad. 

Now, this is just an example. Now similar thing is happening. I’m suffering from jock itch. And till now 3K has been spend. My personal research shows that there’s a good chance, it’s due to my “towel”. The towel is old and doesn’t dry the skin in a better way. Although the story I told was many years old, due to corona I’ve not still graduated/near graduation. So I don’t have any jobs. Part time jobs in Nepal are scams and non-existent.

So, I asked them to get one good towel. The shameful thing is they spent 200-300 on a towel already that believe me takes 1 hr to dry your body (lol body dries itself in 1 hr). The effect of this towel could be huge. The recurring jock itch(I’ve been suffering since 6 months) could bring huge cost. But nope, they won’t agree. They still don’t think it’s a serious problem when I’ve been suffering since 6 months(went to 2 doctors but one was fresher MD pass, another corrupted one so no better-I’m going to best doctor of nepal after some time).

Honestly, they should stop this idiocy.

Now, there’s a way to get them do this. It’s to cry like a child. Fight like a child. Mukhmukhe lagne mazale…Chichaune karaune…

But like really? We need to do this for sth as basic as this shit?

And while this situation is different, in many situations, we get inituitions but aren’t exactly sure if this is what we’re missing. What then?

And  because of this I can’t take any of their advice seriously. Because the only reason they’re telling me to not buy “towel” is because of money. This installs lack of confidence in them.  It’s like that “bagh ayo bagh ayo” kid story all again.

Learn Nepali parents, Learn.

 

PS what’s up with nepalese parents? My parents are 50+(early and late 50s) and if I tell them that they should learn to google, they get hurt. LOL. They spend whole day on facebook and youtube but why are they afraid of googling.

The thing is I’ve my relatives who’re of even more age than them i.e late 50s and early 60s and they’re more forward than them.